1. July 2018
Narcissism -ˈnɑːsɪsɪz(ə)m – (noun): excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one’s physical appearance. But what if we need to be at least a bit narcissistic to learn to value ourselves?
Being a narcissist is, supposedly, a horrible trait. A characteristic frowned upon as being removed from society and so self-centric that one loses themselves from reality. But maybe we’ve been looking at it all wrong?
Have we not talked about society’s warped view of physical appearance, emotional stability and having a hierarchy whereby some are more worthy than others?
How can a society that claims that I am less attractive than another based on my physical appearance be adequate in judging a trait such as narcissism?
This is the same society that has, for so long, tried its best to diminish the value of self-love and body positivity.
Now, do not get me wrong – narcissism in its extremity isn’t a healthy way of looking at things.
But don’t we need to be a bit narcissistic to find happiness within ourselves? How can one learn to self-love if one does not consider oneself as beautiful or intelligent or, even, happy?
Self-love and body confidence need to have elements that are similar to narcissism in order for us to truly learn to appreciate ourselves.
We need to look in the mirror and tell ourselves we’re beautiful.
We need to accept a compliment regarding our physical appearance or intellectual traits.
If you accept you are beautiful, inside and out, does that make you a narcissist?
It has been a long journey to get to this point.
For me to look into a mirror and say “I am perfect just the way I am.”
No longer do I get uncomfortable when someone compliments me. I, now with pride, say THANK YOU! or occasionally say, I KNOW RIGHT!
If learning to admit that you are just as worthy as everyone else in the room exhibits certain traits of narcissism, I AM A NARCISSIST!
Anyway, I just wanted this post to start a conversation. Make us think a bit more about what society has made us believe is right and wrong.
From the moment we are born, we are sheep. But that does not mean we aren’t able to free ourselves from the pack.